My seminary teacher went off on me about dating a non Mormon when I was talking about going to his prom. I remember when I had my first son via C-section, our families came to the hospital with Champagne and celebrated, not even one asked about my surgery…. We started to communicate our needs more clearly, rather than tiptoeing, and we started to compromise. After a lot of thought during that relationship with a non-Mormon, I laid out exactly what struggles I was probably going to face: I was worried about my own faith. You might need to trade missionary lessons for research on her part, and we can suggest less scary resources. I'm married an interventional cardiologist; and I wish I only knew 5 years ago before she started her fellowship what the heck I was signing up for. That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the church, who fully deserve membership. If you are willing to wait, then well and good; otherwise, it is best to move on. I feel as if I am a single parent. She asked me to read that site and write down questions.
I always feel like I am last. Doctors want to be with their families and attend events but because of work they just can't. When he is doing these things, he gets really upset with me if I try to talk to him because he's busy. If you are married to your best friend, then love him unconditionally, share the struggles, accept the sacrifices and know that if he could, he would rather be with you than with a sick or dying patient.
I had been teetering on the fringes for quite a long time, mostly coming to Church but not really being present, because I felt like an outcast as an older single. I still struggle with the silence in contact or wanting to "rescue" him from the harried schedule. It was a complete turn around from what I'd previously seen from her but obviously it was something she'd been thinking about.
That's all we're really saying. I wish I had not ignored the signs whiles we dated but now I am out of energy. It's tough to date a med student let alone a resident. Personally I have a rule that I will not enter a relationship with a believing Mormon.